My name is Ken I am
from ABQ NM.
I was 23 years old, my girlfriend/fiancé at
the time was 16 weeks pregnant with our child. His name is Jacob. One day in
2006 she woke up one day and wanted to abort our son. I did everything that I
could to be a voice for our son, to keep him alive. But his mother continued to
want an abortion. There was no need to
have an abortion, my girlfriend just wanted out of the pregnancy with our son.
A friend of hers drove her to Planned Parenthood in Abq.
The abortion of my
son was completed against my will. I was hurting, feeling like I didn't do
enough to save my child from going through the agonizing death of abortion. Our
relationship ended that day. I was angry with God. I could not understand why He would let this
happen.
I started drinking
heavily, to the point where I was driving home drunk, not caring at all on who
would get hurt by my carelessness. I
tried to commit suicide, because I couldn't come to terms that my son was gone.
Two years later the friend who drove her to Planned Parenthood unknowingly
walked into my place of employment and said, “I am sorry for my part in driving
her to her abortion appointment.” I began to heal but in silence.
I meet my wife
Christina in 2009, and we married in 2010. We have two sons, Aeric and Alex. I
was overjoyed that God was blessing me with more children, but I was missing
Jacob so much more because I felt that he should have been here with his
younger brothers. My wife has said multiple times she has adopted Jacob as her
own child.
In 2016, after
years of pain, I found healing at Surrendered Hearts abortion recovery
ministry. My family & I had a birthday candlelight vigil for Jacob’s 10th
birthday in November 2016 which gave me healing. It is because of my wife &
sons that I am Silent No More.