My name is Ken, and I am from Albuquerque, NM.
I was 23 years old, my girlfriend/fiancé at the time was 16 weeks pregnant with our child. His name is Jacob. One day in 2006 she woke up one day and wanted to abort our son. I did everything that I could to be a voice for our son, to keep him alive. But his mother continued to want an abortion. There was no need to have an abortion, my girlfriend just wanted out of the pregnancy with our son. A friend of hers drove her to Planned Parenthood in Albuquerque.
The abortion of my son was completed against my will. I was hurting, feeling like I didn't do enough to save my child from going through the agonizing death of abortion. Our relationship ended that day. I was angry with God. I could not understand why He would let this happen.
I started drinking heavily, to the point where I was driving home drunk, not caring at all on who would get hurt by my carelessness. I tried to commit suicide, because I couldn't come to terms that my son was gone. Two years later the friend who drove her to Planned Parenthood unknowingly walked into my place of employment and said, “I am sorry for my part in driving her to her abortion appointment.” I began to heal but in silence.
I meet my wife Christina in 2009, and we married in 2010. We have two sons, Aeric and Alex. I was overjoyed that God was blessing me with more children, but I was missing Jacob so much more because I felt that he should have been here with his younger brothers. My wife has said multiple times she has adopted Jacob as her own child.
In 2016, after years of pain, I found healing at Surrendered Hearts abortion recovery ministry. My family & I had a birthday candlelight vigil for Jacob’s 10th birthday in November 2016 which gave me healing. But I still had a way to go on my healing journey. At the encouragement of my wife & invitation to attend Rachel's Vineyard by Sophie. Both my wife & I attended Rachel's Vineyard in November of 2018. My relationships between myself my wife & our sons became greater. My relationships with them improved tremendously & are stronger now more than ever. In February of 2019 I received an email from Jacobs biological mother. It is with great sadness that I say this to this day 13 years later she has no regrets on what she did to Jacob by her Abortion at planned Parenthood & Continued to justify why she did what she did to be in denial about it all & continues to Support The Abortion Industry. The only thing that she felt bad about was Hurting me. Both my wife & I offered her healing by sending her links for Silent No More Awareness & Rachel's Vineyard.
In August 2019 Both my family I founded the new Pro-Life organization ministry nonprofit the Cherub Initiative preserving Life one baby at a time in honor of our son, brother & sister in-law.
It is because of my wife & sons that I am Silent No More.